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Toby Faye Mailman, LCSW

  • Experience25 years
  • LocationNew York
  • Focus areasStress and Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, and Self esteem
  • Therapy approachesInternal Family Systems and Attachment-Based Therapy
  • LanguagesEnglish and Spanish
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About Toby

Toby Faye Mailman is a New York State licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) with 25 years of experience helping people navigate stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, depression, relationship struggles, grief, parenting challenges, anger, career concerns, and compassion fatigue.

Background and approach

She also works with a wide range of related issues such as abandonment, caregiver stress, chronic illness and pain, substance use, domestic violence, HIV/AIDS, hoarding, and other complex co-morbid conditions. Her practice reflects a broad clinical repertoire aimed at addressing both immediate coping needs and longer-term patterns that affect daily life.

Her style emphasizes building a trusting therapeutic relationship as a foundation for change, then using evidence-based tools tailored to each client. She draws on Internal Family Systems alongside cognitive and behavioral strategies, Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills, attachment-oriented techniques, and a client-centered stance to help clients access strengths and develop new skills.

Sessions are offered in English and Spanish from her New York practice, and she supports clients through a variety of session formats geared toward practical access and ongoing work.

Integrating Relational Work and Skills-Based Therapy Online

Internal Family Systems is a model that helps people notice and relate to different parts of themselves with curiosity and compassion, which can be useful for issues like trauma, self-criticism, and patterns that keep recurring. Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how early relational patterns shape current ways of relating and can help when relationship difficulties, trust, or care-taking dynamics are central concerns. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy offers practical tools to identify and shift unhelpful thoughts and behaviors, often helping with anxiety, depression, and everyday coping.

Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will work with each client to explore goals, preferences, and what feels most helpful in session, blending relational and skills-oriented methods as needed to match the person’s needs and pace.

Online therapy through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging supports flexible access to ongoing care. These formats make it easier to schedule regular weekly or bi-weekly meetings, practice new skills between sessions, and maintain continuity of work when life circumstances change, while allowing licensed professionals to adapt interventions to the medium that best fits a client’s routine and comfort.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of concerns does this therapist address?
Toby focuses on stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, depression, relationship difficulties, grief, parenting concerns, anger, career adjustments, and compassion fatigue, among other related issues.
How would you describe the therapeutic approach and style?
Her work centers on forming a trusting relationship and then using modalities that fit the person, including Internal Family Systems, client-centered methods, CBT, DBT, and attachment-based techniques.
What is her professional background and experience?
She has 25 years of clinical practice working with individual adults and a broad array of presenting concerns and life circumstances.
Where is this therapist licensed and located?
She holds an LCSW license in New York with license number NY LCSW 063392 and practices from New York.
Does this therapist offer services in other languages or to international clients?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish. She is not accepting international clients at this time.
What session formats are available for working together?
Clients can meet via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging depending on what works best for their schedule and needs.
How are fees and subscriptions handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions are provided through a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
What are the steps to begin therapy with this provider?
To start, select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyTrauma and abuseSelf esteemDepression

Also works with

Relationship issuesGriefParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesCoping with life changesCompassion fatigue

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCo-morbidityCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionFirst responder issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameHIV / AIDSHoardingImmigration issuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksPersonality disordersPhobiasPost-traumatic stressSelf-harmSexual assault and abuseSocial anxiety and phobiaWomen's issues

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

25+ years

Licensed

New York

Languages

English, Spanish