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Lani Ete, LCMHC

  • Experience17 years
  • LocationUtah
  • Focus areasStress and Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, and Anger
  • Therapy approachesInternal Family Systems and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
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About Lani

Lani Ete is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor (LCMHC) with 17 years of clinical experience. She works with people facing stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, depression, addictions, grief, relationship and intimacy concerns, parenting and caregiver stress, sleep disturbances, ADHD, bipolar challenges, and other life transitions.

Background and approach

Her practice also addresses complex patterns such as attachment difficulties, codependency, dissociation, and issues related to abandonment, control, and communication. Her style blends warmth and directness to create a practical, collaborative environment where clients can explore patterns from past and present relationships and learn concrete skills for change.

Lani draws from Internal Family Systems alongside cognitive-behavioral, client-centered, and acceptance-based methods to tailor interventions to each person’s needs and goals. She encourages active engagement between sessions, including timely completion of assigned work so material can be reviewed and incorporated into ongoing treatment.

Based in Utah, Lani provides services online and accepts international clients. Her approach emphasizes partnership - establishing clear goals together and combining evidence-informed techniques with attention to personal history so clients can better understand themselves and move toward meaningful change.

Integrating therapeutic approaches for online care



Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach that helps people notice and relate to different internal parts or voices, allowing exploration of how those parts influence behavior and emotions. It can be useful for trauma responses, internal conflict, and patterns that feel stuck. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on clarifying values and building psychological flexibility through acceptance and mindful action; it often helps with anxiety, depression, and coping with life changes. Attachment-Based Therapy examines how early and current relationship dynamics shape emotional responses and connection, helping people improve relational patterns and sense of safety in relationships.

Choosing the right fit is part of the therapeutic process. The therapist works collaboratively with each client to identify goals, test approaches that feel helpful, and adjust methods based on progress and preferences rather than prescribing a single path up front.

Online therapy with Lani uses video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to make care more flexible and accessible. These formats allow scheduling that suits varied routines and can support people who need ongoing symptom management, skills practice, or regular check-ins without commuting to an office. Licensed professionals can adapt exercises, pace, and communication style to what works best for each client during remote sessions.

Frequently asked questions

What concerns does Lani commonly address?
Her practice covers stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, depression, addictions, relationship and intimacy issues, grief, parenting and caregiver stress, sleep problems, ADHD, bipolar disorder, and related life changes.
What is her therapeutic style and approach?
She offers an approachable, collaborative style that combines Internal Family Systems with cognitive-behavioral, client-centered, and acceptance-oriented techniques to match interventions to each person’s needs.
How much clinical experience does she have?
She brings 17 years of experience working with a wide range of concerns and patterns, integrating several evidence-informed approaches into her work.
Where is she licensed and practicing from?
She holds an LCMHC credential and practices from Utah with the license recorded as UT LCMHC 6831497-6004.
Can she work with people who live outside the United States?
Yes, she accepts international clients and offers services to people located outside the U.S.
What formats are available for sessions?
Sessions are offered via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to accommodate different preferences and schedules.
How much do sessions cost?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions are delivered through a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
What are the steps to begin working together?
Begin by selecting the Start Therapy button, completing a short matching questionnaire, and then scheduling according to the therapist’s availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Also works with

AddictionsRelationship issuesFamily conflictsGriefIntimacy-related issuesSleeping disordersParenting issuesSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAntisocial personalityAttachment issuesAvoidant personalityCaregiver issues and stressCo-morbidityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesDependent personalityDissociationDivorce and separationDrug and alcohol addictionEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameImpulsivityInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMidlife crisisMood disordersObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPersonality disordersPhobiasPost-traumatic stressProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSexual assault and abuseSocial anxiety and phobiaWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Existential TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

17+ years

Licensed

Utah

Languages

English