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John Alilovich, LMFT

  • Experience40 years
  • LocationCalifornia
  • Focus areasRelationship, Trauma and abuse, and Intimacy-related issues
  • Therapy approachesInternal Family Systems and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
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About John

John Alilovich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in California with four decades of clinical work.

Background and approach

He began his career serving in the county mental health department, where he spent over fifteen years supporting children and families and addressing substance addiction, domestic violence, relationship challenges, various forms of abuse, parenting concerns, and issues affecting LGBTQ families.

Parallel to that public service he developed a independent practice that he continues to maintain across a long clinical career. His approach blends warmth and curiosity with practical skill building, treating each person as the expert on their own life while collaboratively shaping goals and strategies.

He draws on Internal Family Systems alongside emotion-focused, mindfulness, and cognitive behavioral methods to match interventions to what a client needs. He emphasizes sensitivity, respect, and a personalized plan rather than a one-size-fits-all program.

Clients seeking support for relationship difficulties, trauma, mood concerns, addictive behaviors, stress and anxiety, grief, parenting issues, attention-related challenges, or life changes will find a clinician who values partnership and practical outcomes. John frames therapy as a joint process of exploration and applied work aimed at clearer understanding and more effective living.

Therapeutic Approaches and Online Access



Internal Family Systems helps people explore the internal parts that influence feelings and behavior, offering a gentle way to heal trauma and reduce internal conflict by creating more harmony among those parts. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on clarifying values and using mindfulness to accept difficult thoughts while taking committed action toward meaningful goals, which can be useful for anxiety, depression, and life transitions. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at relational patterns and early bonds to improve emotional connection and to change how people relate to others and themselves.

Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist works with each client to understand their concerns, goals, and preferences, and then selects or integrates methods that fit those needs rather than applying a single technique indiscriminately. That shared decision-making is part of the work together.

Online sessions are offered via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to provide flexibility for varied schedules and locations. These formats make it easier to maintain consistency, access care from different places, and try different modes of communication to find what feels most effective for the client.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of problems does John address in therapy?
He works with a wide range of concerns including relationship and intimacy issues, trauma and abuse, depression, anxiety, addictions, grief, parenting challenges, ADHD, and life transitions among others.
What is his general therapeutic style?
His style is warm and personal, emphasizing collaboration and respect while helping clients identify practical goals and strategies that fit their lives.
How much clinical experience does he bring?
He brings 40 years of professional experience, including more than fifteen years working within a county mental health department and many additional years in independent practice.
What are his credentials and where is he based?
He is licensed as an LMFT in California with licence number CA LMFT MFT27006 and maintains a practice in California.
Can he work with clients who live outside the United States?
Yes, he accepts international clients and conducts sessions with people located outside the U.S.
Which session formats are available for meeting online?
Sessions are offered via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to accommodate different preferences and needs.
How are fees and subscriptions handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
What steps are involved in beginning therapy?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule according to the therapist's availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Relationship issuesTrauma and abuseIntimacy-related issuesDepressionCompassion fatigue

Also works with

Stress, AnxietyAddictionsLGBTFamily conflictsGriefEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAttachment issuesAutism and Asperger SyndromeBlended family issuesCodependencyDivorce and separationFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesForgivenessInfidelityIntellectual disabilityJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisMood disordersObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPersonality disordersPhobiasPostpartum depressionProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSex addictionSexual dysfunctionSexualityWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyMindfulness TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

40+ years

Licensed

California

Languages

English